Wow. It's July already? The days go by too quickly when I'm too busy. <sigh> When we get too busy, it's easy to stop indulging in some of our favorite things -- like dressing up. If you go too long without dressing, what happens?

There's a common occurrence among crossdressers to build up the urge to dress if going too long of a period without that relief. And for most, it IS a kind of relief. Have you never experienced the feeling of "Ahhh... there! FINALLY back to NORMAL. What was I thinking???!!!" after having deprived yourself of dressing?

There are a couple reasons we may avoid dressing:

1. Making a CONSCIOUS EFFORT to not dress, either due to guilt, shame, or false beliefs about the practice
2. Simply having little or no time to indulge
3. Lack of money (wardrobes start costing some money -- unless you find cheaper outlets for crossdressers)
4. No place to indulge

Some of those reasons get intertwined: if I have no money for clothing, I won't have money to rent a hotel room to dress up in. If I falsely believe there is something wrong with dressing, I won't feel safe doing that in my own home, much less telling anyone else about it, and the guilt and shame builds every time I practice -- and I might slip into the URGE TO PURGE cycle. Read The Purging Dilemma

Still, we do come back to the compulsion. It DOES feel like a compulsion, doesn't it? And once again, thankfully, we return to that feeling of normalcy, even if only for one divine evening of indulgence.



I wonder how many of you out there get these ancillary urges that go along with dressing up?

• Do you also get the urge to shave oh-so-smooth in order to enhance the luxurious sensations of women's clothing against your skin?
  
• Do you also get the urge to take the time to carefully apply full makeup to look your prettiest?
• Do you experience accomanying sexual urges after you see yourself in the mirror fully dressed, and possibly including sex toys into your dress up session?
• Do you feel a compulsion to exhibit yourself (see Are You a Porn Star? ), whether online or a real-life hook up with another CD or a real man or woman?

We'd like to hear your experiences of the above. Please join us in the Forums!

Pretty Crossdresser has complete re-designed their website, and we think it is much prettier to look at compared to their drab old page.

They have lots of work to do yet, and some of the menu choices don't make sense. I think we 'caught them in the act' but it does seem to be shaping up rather nicely.

AND... our visit showed us something we never knew -- AN ADULT section of Ebay???? Yep! Check them out!

Have you been to Crossdresser.com lately?
Are you aware of the stir that Suddenly Fem's Video Fashion Show? We like it even better than Victoria's Secret! ;-)
Cassandra Fever was the model at this year's Fashion Show. You can find more videos on YouTube using keyword "Suddenly Fem"



Suddenly Fem uses the male body as a guide for its fashions. They helps the beginner who doesn't know how to shop for sizes and styles -- from everything like panties and bras, to hosiery, shoes, outerwear, evening wear, and accessories.
Suddenly Fem offers such staples as corsets, mini skirts, mini dresses, bras, panties, hosiery, and lingerie, as well as necessary items such as wigs, gaffs, and silicone breast forms.

Go HERE -- Lots of broken links, but the ones that aren't will keep you happy.

TUCKING === What is that?
Tucking
Any of several techniques used to hide or disguise the external male organs under close-fitting garments.

Checked around and these seem to be the best "How-To" sites for Tucking. The Transgender Zone has very nice pics of model Miriam showing how good a person can look in even a swimsuit with genitals tucked.

Susan's Place has a very good article "Tucking and Taping" with photo illustrations of how to make your very own Gaff!

Also, A TransSistah's Secret Tucking

There are devices out there to help you hide the bulge as well: Where to find a decent Gaff? Start here if you like LYCRA -- it's more comfortable, and gives that realistic look. Mmmmmmmm

What do you want your life to be like?
Do you want to coax that little sissy out of its shell?
To you want to just sit back and wish and fantasize and never do anything but browse in secret?

Maybe some of you are already experimenting, maybe some have their first secret pair of panties or stockings or whatever. That's a start. Keep exploring. Keep learning about your secret desires, about that femme side aching to be set free.

If you're into lingerie (and so many of us are!) and have narrowed down your tastes to something specific like a sweet little babydoll, then maybe you have yourself a little fetish there. Enjoy it!

Too muscular and masculine to be femme? We have seen before and after photos of feminized men who started out with a large physique (broad shoulders, muscular arms), but after the makeover, were they ever eye candy! Check out some of the before and after videos on YouTube.

Don't fret -- many clothing sites -- particularly those for the crossdresser -- offer plus sizes, and help you decide which size is right for you.

Perhaps you can benefit from Advice from the Crossdresser's Wife.
Crossdressing Cafe has some good tips for you also.
Want some Crossdresser Cleavage? Learn how.
4 Crossdressing Tips for Disguising a Manly Jaw.

SHOPPING FOR LARGE SIZES:

• Queen Fashions
• DesignHers
• Grand Allure

Yep. That's what this site started out as: a site about sissies who love panties. It's gotten rather eclectic, but who cares? Sissies need lots of diversions, as long as they're about being sissified, or learning about femininity, or just having a place to hike up the skirt and sit down for a bit.

Frederick's Superstar Sale- Panties now 4 for $15

Love of panties can start at a young age, but many of us discover love of panties in unusual situation. I used to offer to do the laundry simply because I loved to hold and caress and smell the panties. I got braver and started sneaking a pair now and then to wear in secret.

Frederick's Superstar Sale- Panties now 4 for $15

There's a longer risque' version of how my wife discovered my penchant for panties in the forums, but here's a list of related trivia on sissies and panties:

• Sissy Panties! A Guide to Panties for New Sissies
• Panty Club 4 Men
• Panties for men on Etsy
• Sissyville (training)
• Panty training tapes

Unless you have a real penchant for BIKINIS and have a super figure, the beach might not be a safe bet if you look like this. On the other hand, these two gals do justice to the bikini!

Wicked Temptations is having a BUILD YOUR BIKINI service! New! For Crossdressers! Check it out!

Sometimes you might wear a bikini just because you like tan lines, and want to push the envelope by showing off your tan lines in risky places.

Here's one crossdresser's very touching story of her love for a particular bikini: "Why I Crossdress". Get out your box of kleenex.

Jump into the discussion at Cupid.com, "My Boyfriend Wants to Wear My Bikini's..."
There was a discussion thread on BIKINI WAX at crossdresserclub.com, but it was closed after being inactive.

In  "Crossdressing Firefighter Busted in Bikini" the eyewitness said he thought the firefighter was unethical -- I hope he was referring to the drunk driving rather than the bikini. ;-)

If you have to try to get rid of a bikini tan line before anyone notices, you might be a crossdresser. Read a list of "If you_____, then you are a crossdresser" at Netfunny.